Another harrowing event in the NY area and more questions raised this week in the public consciousness. Overwhelming horror, sadness and tragedy has brought about discussions which address mental health care policies, services and classifications, gun control laws, maternal responsibility for managing “difficult” children, video game violence, leisure time pursuits (guns?) and a healthy dose of “good” versus “evil” rhetoric.
Hopefully these discussions will lead to changes in public policies regarding services for the mentally ill and abolish the ridiculous stance the NRA has regarding the right to bare arms. As a parent, and an occupational therapist, it is also my hope that parents will re-examine if first person shooter games are EVER appropriate for children to play.  Leisure time in childhood is the most meaningful character building leisure time of ones life; please advocate using it well.

I am reminded of this poem that was popular when I was a child.
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
Copyright © 1972 by Dorothy Law Nolte